Monday, January 14, 2008 ~ Why don't I learn?

Some of you may remember the blog I posted regaurding my ex-husband's wife contacting me through here in '06. After that little incident, I figured I was done with them. Oh no! He contacted me through here this time. This time through the LHSflagpole myspace page. A place where all of us friends from HS could get together and relive the glory days of our youth. Blech.
This is what he messaged to me:

I know I did some mean and nasty stuff to you and all tho I want to appologize, It seems that you aren't willing to hear me out. For what it's worth part of me wisshes we could have worked it out...:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

I'm sorry

..:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Dave

P.S. I'm being deployed soon would like to talk on phone if your willing will give you my later.

Here's what I said back: (Warning, not nice)

*SOME* mean and nasty stuff? You're joking, right? Our entire relationship, from start to finish, was a huge mess. Screaming, yelling, threatening...not to mention you cheating on me. Yeah, I'd say you did "some" stuff.

The time to apologize was years ago. After you actually did those things. Not years later, especially when you're married with two kids.

You're right; I'm not overly willing to hear you out. Why should I? You caused pain and humiliation. You caused me to lose jobs and respect. Your wife contacting me last year gave me fits. Here I am, hoping your corpse is rotting in some landfill somewhere, and out of the blue you pop back into my life. And not only that, I read her blog, and "someone" is calling me a pathological lier. Who do you think that could have been? You perhaps? And now you want to make peace?

And you still wish, after nearly 10 years, that we could have worked out. Maybe you should have thought of that 10 years ago, before we got divorced.

Your mother hated, your father tried to sleep with me, you were mean and nasty to my cats, tried to keep me away from my friends, and tried to get me knocked up when I didn't want kids. But you still wish it could have worked out. Better hope you're wife doesn't hear you say that.

As for being deployed, please tell me someone didn't actually let you rejoin the military. God help the country.

I hope you step on a land mine.

Was the land mine comment over the top? Probably. Did I mean it? Not 100%.
Imagine my surprise when I see these comments on the LHSflagpole myspace page:
i received this email from Dave and was asked to pass it on to all of you. i still hold to a neutral status with everyone and refuse to get into the middle of things.


Dear Gang,

I received a very disturbing Email from one of our bunch yesterday. While I'm not wanting to do this, it's been made clear that my contact with eveyone is "UNWELCOME" I wont insult any of you with the details, but to put it nicely I"m an intruder who "has got some nerve speaking to any of " their "friends" . You've all known me for a long time, I just hope that I will be spoken of in a kind way from time to time. I miss you all and shall continue to do so.


ADIOS AMIGOS,
Your friend under the radar

DAVE

P.S. I'm Sorry I've Been a Burden

As you can see from my response, I never said anything that he said I did. Nice to see his lying skills are still running at 100%
Here's another one, responding to that one:
This is in response to Dave's letter. I think that the person who sent a crule letter to him saying such mean things should be strung up and left to die. But Morgan wants me to raise above and forgive so I will. I know who did it and I forgive you for your moment of rash thinking and that you are not really an uncaring person who would knowingly tell a militay man going to IRAQ that you want them to step on a mine and die. THis page is for all of us to reunite and forget old grudges so I just ask that you do that. If you do not like him do not talk to him, but do not tell him that we can not. lots of love cris
She forgives me. How sweet. He didn't ruin my favorite pair of jeans! He hurt me, physically and emotionally. And I can't believe they let him back into the military. He got dishonorably discharged from the Navy. Who the hell lets someone like that back in?!

Here's another one:

Dave, I didn't know you that well, but what I did get to see was that you are a wonderful, supportive, loyal friend. I hope that you will continue to hang with us here, and walk down the memory lanes with us We are all adults here, even if just pretending cause we have to.... everyone needs to grow up, or at least pretend, so that we can have this little "play date" K.
Here was my response to all of them:

To hell with you all. Aparently it was okay for him to hit me, rape me, cause me to loose jobs and play parts, cheat on me, and make my life a living hell. Here I thought I could reconnect with some friends from HS. Best four years of my life my ass.
Nice of my "friends" to check with me and see if anything he said was true before blasting me all over that page.
So, as I said...to hell with you. I knew that page was a bad idea. Guess I was right.